A big part of growth involves looking back and reframing the parts of your life that caused you the most pain. I've done that with the abuse I suffered at the hands of my uncle and it's helped a great deal. When it comes to Rehtaeh it's harder of course, the pain there is
One of the earliest incidents of trauma I can remember happened at a dentist's office. I was at most seven years old and when I look back at it now I can see the impact it had on my life. It was the worst breach of trust there could be and to this day I have problems trusting people in authority situations. I never think they'll do the right thing, ever. I learned to deal with most of the shit in my life on my own and it was mentally damaging as hell.