This page is dedicated to the memory of my daughter ~ Rehtaeh Anne Parsons ~

Her eulogy and obituary can be read here.

There have been three government reviews into Rehtaeh’s case.

  1. External Review of the Halifax Regional School Board’s Support of Rehtaeh Parsons
  2. Child and Adolescent Mental Health and Addiction Services in the Halifax Regional Municipality
  3. Independent Review of the Police and Prosecution Response to the Rehtaeh Parsons Case

‘Rehtaeh’ is a song written and performed by Nova Scotia artist Adam Baldwin.

“Rehtaeh” is about the systemic failures that led to the death of Rehtaeh Parsons in 2013 and is, as Adam puts it, “maybe the most important song I’ll ever write.”

The timeline provided by the Review of the Police and Prosecution Response into Rehtaeh’s case can be seen here.

On November 12th, 2011, Rehtaeh attended a sleep over at a new friend’s house. While there she and the other girl walked to a nearby house where a boy who went to their school lived. He had a friend visiting at the time and the mother of the house was home at the time.

Someone produced a bottle of Vodka and the four of them shared it. Rehtaeh doesn’t recall how much she drank, but it was enough to make her physically sick. When she started to vomit the two boys carried her to a window so she could get sick while hanging out it and not make a mess in the room.

While she was out the window the two males debated who would go first (this we know from a letter sent to Rehtaeh’s mother from one of the youth following Rehtaeh’s death). When the second male raped her he asked for a photo to be taken. He smiled for the picture and gave a thumbs up. This photo was shared and spread to hundreds of students throughout the Halifax school district.

When they finished assaulting Rehtaeh they carried her to a bed so, “she could sleep.” Rehtaeh’s friend had left earlier and returned with her mother. One of the males met them at the door, then returned to the bedroom with Rehtaeh’s friend. When they were unable to get Rehtaeh dressed they returned to the door and told the mother that Rehtaeh wanted to spend the night. So the mother and her daughter left.

A little later two other males came to the house. One of them also lived in the home. They needed the bed Rehtaeh was in so they carried her to another room where the two new males raped her as well.

None of the information above is in dispute. That is the timeline according to the male in the photograph.

That is what happened to Rehtaeh Parsons on the evening of November 12th, 2011. She hanged herself on April 4th 2013 and died on the 7th.

8 Comments

  1. I can only imagine your pain. I am very sorry for the loss of your Daughter. Keep up your fight and know that she is in the arms of God now. God Bless you and your family.

  2. My prayers to your family and friends. I understand Rehteah in ways few people know. I was wondering where I can get a “Rehate is her name” button and stand for her, giving a voice when she couldn’t. Thank you very much.

  3. I left a comment, without realizing that [Rehtaeh] was also called Rae, I didn’t mean to hurt or offend. My name is Rachel and have been called Rae since I was very young and my older brothers would call me their Rae of Sunshine.
    I also wanted to let anyone and everyone about a book that can save lives of girls and women who have been raped or molested. It is called “Letters to Survivors” -Words of Comfort for Women Recovering from Rape (Compiled by Matt Atkinson) it is available on Amazon.com This book saved me, and it can also help family of rape survivors understand better. I hope you get the book and it brings peace to you. ♡

  4. […] Vuorisaarnaa voi kuvata henkisen elämän evolutiiviseksi kehitykseksi. Lapsenkaltaisuutta, oikeudenmukaisuutta, väkivallattomuutta, työtä ja rehellisyyttä korostavana se päätyy talonsa kalliolle rakentavaan ymmärtäväiseen, vastakohtana tyhmälle, talonsa hiekalle rakentavaan mieheen. Jälkimmäinen toki hokee; ”Herra, Herra!” Kumman valitsemme? Pelkkä puhuminen ei riitä. Siispä vaikenemme ollaksemme puolueettomia. Vaikeneminen tulkitaan kuitenkin vallitsevan tilanteen tukemiseksi. Se muistuttaa meitä 17-vuotiaan amerikkalaisen Rehtaeh Parsonin kohtalosta. Neljän pojan raiskaama, yhden heistä valokuvaama ja netissä julkaisema video ”seksiä jakavasta” tytöstä johti tytön koulukiusaamiseen, koulun vaihtamiseen ja lopuksi tämän sosiaaliseen eristäytymiseen. Ennen itsemurhaa tyttö jätti viestin siteeraamalla Martin Luther Kingin ajatusta. ”Loppujen lopuksi emme muista vihollistemme sanoja, vaan ystäviemme hiljaisuuden”. (Rehtaeh Parsons – GLEN CANNING). […]

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