Mental Health Resources for Men

The biggest impediment to men seeking help is the perception that it means they must be weak. Living with mental health problems and not sharing that struggle with someone a self-inflected wound that will continue to bleed all over your life until you either learn to live with it (why would you do that to yourself?) or you get sick of it.

And that usually won’t happen until you’ve learned to love yourself enough to care. You need to know you matter because you do.

There has long been a stigma around men and mental health so lets encourage each other to end it.

This page will be updated with new information as it becomes available. If you have a recommendation to add please let me know.

I wish you peace.

Try Box Breathing

Repeat this exercise as many times as it takes to calm down. Thirty seconds of deep breathing will help you feel more relaxed and in control. The Navy Seals use this technique.

Suicide Prevention

Canada Crisis Helpline: 9-8-8 (English and French)
United States Crisis Helpline: 9-8-8 (English and Español)
Australia Lifeline: 13 11 14
List of International Crisis Helplines

What to Do if Your Feeling Suicidal

Sexual Abuse Recovery

Therapy and Help

1. Embrace all of your feelings and emotions. You’re entitled to whatever feelings come up. You may experience intense anger, guilt, denial, sorrow and fear, all of which are normal for a bereaved parent.

2. Throw out the timetable. There is no timetable for grieving. Your journey is different, depending on personality and life circumstances.

3. Don’t worry about numbness. In this state, the world may seem like a dream or seem to go on without you. People and things that once brought happiness evoke nothing at all. This state could pass quickly or linger; it’s the body’s way of offering protection from overwhelming emotions. With time, feelings and connections will return.

4. Take time off from work… or not. Some people find the thought of returning to work unbearable while others prefer to throw themselves into the daily activity and challenges that work offers.

5. Turn to your faith if you can. If you find comfort in the beliefs, teachings and rituals of your faith, turn to them now to aid in your grief recovery. Know, too, that the loss of your child may damage your religious beliefs, and that’s ok. In time, you may find that you’re able to return to faith; either way, if you have been a person of faith, believe that God is big enough to handle your anger, rage and sorrow.

6. Delay decision making. Wait at least one year before making any major decisions. Don’t sell your house, change locations, divorce a partner or alter your life significantly. Wait until the fog has lifted, and you can clearly see the options available to you.

7. Trust in time. The phrase “Time heals all wounds” may sound like a meaningless cliche, but the truth is that you will recover from this loss in time. Initially, memories will hurt you to your core, even the good ones, but at some point that will begin to change, and you’ll come to cherish those memories. They’ll bring a smile to your face and joy to your heart. Grief is similar to a roller coaster or the ocean’s tide.